How to be a Warrior of Love
When the ancient Egyptians prepared a body for its journey to the afterlife, they knew to throw the brain away and keep the heart intact. The heart has an enormous magnetic field, about 60 times more powerful than the brain. It is an area of incredible spiritual potency and consciousness. The root of the wisdom eye is in the heart. It is the place where all differences dissolve, and polarities collapse. The heart is also symbolized as the wish fulfilling jewel, held by Bodhisattva of compassion, Chenrezig. Our physical heart, namely the Bundle of His, is where the spark of life enters our body. In order to receive this energy, the heart itself must be unconditionally receptive and resonate with the deepest universal truths. To take the heart as your path to spiritual awakening is perhaps the most direct and difficult of all paths, thus the one who follows love must become a warrior.
A Warrior of Love allows themselves to feel and embrace the full spectrum of their emotions without becoming identified with judgment or fear. They transform themselves through the power of bringing unconscious emotions into the light of awareness. It is a path of unwavering presence and relentless devotion.
For many people, love is an experience that is idealized to great proportions. Many believe that once they find the right mate, life will be complete. And if they don’t, they have failed somehow. Movies and culture teach us that romantic fulfillment is reliant on chance or some mysterious influence, when truly, we have not learned how to love ourselves or one another. We don’t understand how love’s medicine works.
Rather then trying to avoid pain and conflict, Warriors of Love EXPECT the sting of unconsciousness to arise when opening their hearts to another. It is through the very process of loving that distortions are stirred up from the depths and made visible. Intense love calls up the darkest shadows. The strongest affinity rouses the most ferocious demons.
“The essence of warriorship, or the essence of human bravery, is refusing to give up on anyone or anything.”
― Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche
We must break the conditioning that expects the “right” partnership to feel good all the time. Of course it is not healthy to stay in a pattern of suffering that never evolves. However, there is no “special” kind of love to hold out for, there is only love, and the willingness to grow — or not.
True love is merciless, the ultimate solvent. It is a bright mirror that reflects all the wounded places we’ve rejected in ourselves, leaving us with only two choices: to recognize the pain that dwells inside and embrace the opportunity to release these wounds, or run from the pain and blame our friend or partner as the source of our suffering. In these pivotal moments there is potential for either deepening our trauma or retrieving fragmented, rejected parts of ourselves. As we cease to protect our weakness, love’s unifying power is able to open us into deeper joy and integration. Our weakness unguarded becomes a strength.
Warriors of Love choose to move in the direction of expansion and unity, rather than containment and control. Consciously releasing fears and insecurities whenever they are noticed, pain is taken as an opportunity for awakening.
If you are hurting, whether alone or with a partner, sit in your pain with a curious mind and open heart. It will eventually break open into something beautiful. It has to.
Real love will challenge you on every level, expose all the dark and ugly places you’ve judged or rejected in yourself, and ultimately annihilate your identity as an individual, separate being. Real love is terrifying. A pure force of ego annihilation. So many turn from or destroy that which awakens the deepest stirring of our hearts. A Warrior of Love understands this and embraces the challenge to keep opening despite the fear of rejection or loss.
Our deepest unconscious fears are exposed through loving deeply. Intense unions have greater capacity for enlightenment, thus the shadow is stronger. If both of you can bear the shadow without losing consciousness, the rewards are immense. As Peter Murphy of Bauhaus so aptly put it, “The passion of lovers is for death.” The death of the ego, the death of separation. Warriors of Love understand that their quest will ultimately lead to death, or as some call it, enlightenment. Yet they choose to continue on, fearlessly vulnerable, expressing their deepest heart regardless of outcome.
Those who embrace their darkness will live in light.